Keeping it Real

Why the No Contact Rule is Necessary after a Break-Up

The initial stage of a breakup is where we are the most venerable.

Breakups are hard. We can end up feeling empty, desperate, or like we have lost a piece of ourselves.  And sometimes we will do something foolish to get it back. Many recent dumpees have an excruciating tendency to focus all of their energy on their ex. What is he doing? Who is she with? What can I do to get him back? How can I make her love me again? This is a natural, understandable response to heartbreak, but it is not healthy.

What is No Contact?

The No Contact Rule is as severe as it sounds. Disconnect from your ex entirely. Do not see your ex. Do not call your ex. Do not text or email your ex. Unfriend your ex on Facebook and unfollow him or her on Twitter. The only way to begin the healing process is to take a clean break; cut the cord and do not attempt to remain friends.

Yes, the No Contact Rule is harsh and extremely difficult, but it will pay off in the end. The No Contact Rule typically speeds up the healing and moving on process, especially compared to those who attempt to remain friends.

Will The No Contact Rule Help Me Get My Ex Back?

If you are wondering whether or not the No Contact Rule can help you get your ex back or not, there are a few things you should know:

1) Yes it can, but

2) That is not the point. In fact, it rather defeats the purpose.