Keeping it Real

To The Boys Who Don’t Understand What “In A Relationship” Means

Dear Boys, (I will call you this considering a man doesn’t need this talk)

I get it, women who are taken are just that much more attractive, right? Or the lady you have had your eyes on and maybe even had a “thing” with (whatever that means) is now taken, and all you can think about is how you lost your chance but maybe you can “get her back now”.

Well, I’m here to inform you that you are too late. It is too late for you to be sending texts about how much you care and how much you want to be with her. It is too late for you to pretend like you love her when you most likely had plenty of time to tell her this.

When a lady is in a relationship you do not bother her. You do not send her “I wish I told you this sooner” texts. You do not snap chat her asking her stupid sh*t. You do not facebook message her, dm her, leave heart eye emoji’s on her Instagram.

You just leave her the hell alone! If you were too stupid to realize how great she was before she found someone who really cared about her and made her happy, that’s your fault, not hers.

So stop trying to be petty and ruin something that obviously means a lot to her. Grow up, and realize that in life there are time restraints and you can miss opportunities, but learn from them! Don’t try and go sabotage things.

Also, if you really care about this girl (which you probably don’t) but if you do! You should want her to be happy. You should let her go because you can see in her smile and in her eyes that this guy makes her happy, and maybe even happier than you did.

I know it’s hard to let go of your pride, especially because for some reason some guys like to think of girls as competition. But just do it… Stop trying to cause beef with a guy who is only making her happy.

Stop being jealous of someone treating her better than you did. You had the opportunity and you lost it.

But most of all, leave her alone. She doesn’t want to talk to you, she doesn’t want to get your stupid texts because she already knows the game you are trying to play.

She has finally realized she deserves better than your games and that is why she moved on. So just do yourself a favor and let it go. It will be less embarrassing for you and less annoying for her.

Let her be happy that’s the best thing you can do.

Nicole Clements