Keeping it Real

Signs He’s Dating You For Your Money

You don’t have to be rich to be a sugar mama

No one wants to think they are being used for their money, car, or home, but it does happen, and it’s important to know when it’s happening to you. If you remain in denial about the situation, you may end up feeling used and abused or even worse, in financial trouble yourself. Here are five signs that the man you’re dating may be using you for your money.

1. He has endless financial troubles

If you’re a financially stable woman who is dating a man who has never-ending financial troubles, this could be an indicator that he’s only in the relationship for the money.

You know this is true if he asks you to help him out of his financial jams. He might not ask you directly, but he will bring up his problems often to make sure you’re aware of them. This is a technique used so that he doesn’t have to ask you, but you’ll offer him the money he needs.

2. He’s much younger than you

This fact alone does not mean that he is dating you for your money. But if you find yourself wondering why he’s dating you, especially if you have nothing in common, money could be the answer. Obviously, as an older woman, you’re more likely to have a house, a car, or a healthy bank account. If he benefits from your financial freedom, that may be his motivation for dating you.

3. He doesn’t have a job

If the man you’re dating doesn’t have a job, he may be dating you because you have a stable job with a regular income. When you date someone without a job and money, you will be footing most of the bills. He may even start staying with you because he can’t afford a place of his own. If he does not attempt to get a job and expects you to pay all the bills because it’s your house, he’s dating you for your money.

4. He brags about your financial success to everyone

If the man you’re dating seems to brag to other people about your home, new car, frequent vacations, or how much money you make, he’s probably dating you because he likes those things more than he enjoys your personality, spontaneity, or kind heart. He gets more enjoyment from what you have to offer than who you are as a woman.

5. He tells you that you deserve to treat yourself

When you’re out with your boyfriend, and he encourages you to treat yourself to expensive meals, drinks, and other entertainment, he is benefiting from being with you. He may push you heavily to enjoy things you don’t really want to to get them himself.

Dating a man who is with you just for your money is a hard pill to swallow, but once you accept the facts, you can decide whether he’s worth it to you. Just be aware that someone who is dating you for your money likely won’t be around long if you stop being generous with your funds or lose your assets. – Tina T.