Is He the One?

There are two common reasons a woman asks this question.

I can tell you a lot about your relationship depending on the reason behind your question.

It’s normal to get a pit-in-the-stomach nervous feeling when you think about committing your life to someone.

Big decisions create nervous feelings even when you’re about to make the right choice.

These emotions should never be ignored because they’re trying to tell you something.

Emotions often alert us about things we know on an intuitive level but do not want to recognize as the truth.

How do you know the difference?

How do you know the difference between normal nervousness from a big decision versus gut level instincts telling you to turn and run in the opposite direction?

The best way to distinguish between these feelings is by asking yourself the following question.

“Do I feel lonely when I spend time alone with him?”

If you do, the connection at the deepest level either never took root, or died off as you learned more about each other over time.

If you feel yourself longing to get out and be around other people when spending time with him, he’s not the one.

Now let’s turn to the other reason this question comes up.

As a dating and relationship coach, I frequently receive questions from women who notice their boyfriend or husband has become less romantic over time.

A change in emotional intensity is normal as a relationship matures. Your relationship will naturally shift through several stages.