Keeping it Real

8 Reasons Not To Be Friends With Your Ex

“To be or not to be?”

Is the big question when it comes to being friends with your ex. It’s a nice idea to stay friends with a former partner, but is it really for the best? There are eight solid reasons why trying to maintain a friendship with an ex-lover could be problematic.

  1. Prolonging heartbreak

The best thing to do when a relationship falls apart is to move on and try to distance your self from the situation. By attempting to keep an ex in your life, even as a friend, you may be prolonging the healing process and causing both parties more suffering.

  1. Bad Memories

When a relationship ends it’s very easy to dwell on all the things that went wrong in it. If you try to stay friends with your ex, you may be providing yourself with a constant reminder of all the bad things that happened when you were together.

  1. Potential Relapse

Despite your best efforts to just be friends with an ex, it takes a long time for feelings and passion to go away. The potential for relapsing and getting back together will always be there, and why start the whole cycle of heartbreak and pain all over again?

  1. Awkward Moments

Let’s face it, you’ve probably seen your ex naked countless numbers of times. Can you really maintain a friendship with someone you were intimate with at one point in time and not think of them in that way?

  1. Ulterior Motives

You know your reasons for wanting to stay friends with an ex, but do you know theirs? Perhaps your ex is still in love with you and wants you back, or maybe they just want to control you by not allowing you to meet anyone new.

  1. Not Being Able to Meet Someone New

Having an ex-lover in your life could prevent you from finding that perfect person. Not only could your former partner sabotage any potential new relationship, but also you may feel guilty or hesitant to start anything new, knowing that you may hurt someone else in the process.

  1. Having to See Your Ex With Someone Else

One of the hardest things about breaking up is seeing a former partner with somebody new. If you remain friends with your ex, it’s inevitable that this will happen at some point, so save yourself the pain and cut them loose before you have to go through additional heartbreak.

  1. You Broke Up For a Reason

There is always a good reason why even the strongest relationships fall apart. Whatever the reason, just think, if you couldn’t be in a relationship with them any more, why on earth would you be able to be friends with them?

Clearly there are a number of good reasons why trying to be friends with an ex can be more trouble than it’s worth. If you want to save yourself heartbreak and pain, the best thing to do is to let your ex go and move on with your life.  -Stephanie Mee